Kids (Young Adults) who kill. What Is Wrong With Them?

WHAT MAKES A CHILD Or Young Adult VIOLENT?

Most of the mainstream educators and others who have hands in raising children seem to think that Violence begets Violence.  They have tried to obliterate anything they think has a violent tendency.   You can see this on social media, in writing sites, on search engine and even in the school system.  Parents have listened to the media and have come to think that they all tell the truth but they do not.  Violence does not beget violence else everyone on the planet would be violent.  Learning about bodily functions and using the correct words or even talking about such things has become taboo.  Parents are told they will beget what we don’t want in our children and in society.  It does not.  Your child is a growing adult. A child has many learning process they will go through to be a functioning adult in society and it starts in the womb. 

The media has brought about many changes in the way that we have raised our children.  It is true that there is more violence shown on the TV, in the newspapers and periodicals.  This in turn has desensitized many. Parents now think that this brings about more violent tendencies in their children. Some use it as a way to teach self-defense.  That’s a big one for you.  If there were no violence then there would be no need to be violent back.  Self-Defense is used as an excuse to be violent against another.  All those video’s with violent play and killing, they are all murdering and it’s all under the guise of self-defense.  Is the answer, just don’t let them see or hear it and they won’t do it?  Those kinds of thoughts have been with us for a very long time and many see these things on a daily basis in some form or another and it doesn’t make them violent.  I don’t think this is the answer.

Sandy Hook Elementary School Murderer

Dylann Roof SC Church Murderer

In the news in the last decade there have been reports of children or young adults going on killing sprees such as what

Columbin CO High School Murderers

happened in the Columbine High School, the theater and in Sandy Hook Elementaryschool and now Dylann Roof and the murdering of the Charleston SC church members.  It seems that some of our youth seems to be on a track of self-destruction.  They seem to not be able to stop the killing as they go on to mass murder everyone in sight.  It makes little difference if they are related to the victims or just that the victims are just in the way. 

Many questions have been brought up about these youth, their upbringing and their mental health.  Many bewildered adults and children have asked questions like: Why are our children doing this. Is the cause our water or in the food that we consume, or is it deeper than that? 

These questions I will try to answer in the article. 

Is it violence on TV or other Electronic Devises?

It has been proven that some electric waves produce bad effects on adults.  Electronics is fairly new in our society and we are just learning some things about all the various electronics or waves that affect us.  Since the invention of the TV we have set our youth down in front of it.  We have treated it like a Babysitter as some device that will keep our children happy for hours while the parents are doing something else.  All those waves bombarding the children do cause ill effects.  Many parents and the toy industry disbelieve that these do affect the children.  All one has to do is look at the number of children as early as the age of 12  who go haywire later in their teens or young adulthood to see the correlation. 

Research has proven that these children get addicted to the video games and anything having to do with the Internet.  What causes it?  It is the rewards/punishment process they get from playing the game.   It’s the high and escape from their reality they get from using or as parent’s do when they give them candy as a reward.  We are training them to do these things. 

We can see the addictive affects when we try to take their games away from them or the Internet and cell phones, yes cell phones too.  The proper term is “Screen Addictive Children”.  

The meaning of addiction is:

•         Inability to avoid that which you are addicted to

•         A lack of control over your behavior

•         Uncontrolled need for the thing that you are addicted too, most likely the rewarding experience computer or video games gives.

•         Problematic relationship skills and behavior towards others.

•         Emotions become erratic

When parents took away the game or Internet the children did exhibit signs of addiction in that they were depression, unable to deal with stress in their lives at school and at home, elevated anger and aggression, mood swings, thought processes don’t correlate to their situation, they become more violent.

Violence Begets Violence?

The current mode of thought for mainstream educators and others who have a hand in raising children believe that violence creates violence.  You are able to see this in social media, on the writing sites, and in the school system as they try to obliterate anything and everything that they even consider has a violent tendency.  Parents listen to the media tell them that they too need to do so lest we create a violent child and they come to believe that the media tells the complete truth; they don’t.  Violence doe not automatically beget violence else everyone on the planet would be violent.

The media has brought about many changes in the way we have raised our children.  It is true that there is ever more and more violence shown on TV, in movies, in the newspapers, and other periodicals.  This in turn has desensitized many.  Many parents now believe that this brings about the need to teach self-defense.  Self-Defense is nothing more than an excuse to be violent in return.  But, if there was no violence then there would be no need to be violent back.

A child goes through many leaning processed along he way to becoming a functioning adult in society, and those processes begin in the womb.  Learning about bodily functions, using the correct vocabulary, or even discussing violence with a child has become taboo.  Is the answer to the epidemic of violent children, just don’t let them see of hear about violence and they won’t do it?  This mode of thought has been with us for quite a while now and many children see these things on a daily basis in one form or another yet it doesn’t make them violent.  Obviously this is not the answer.  Read about what science has proven about the age of when criminal activity starts: Life of Crime starts at a very young age

Could it be food or water?

          There are many studies conducted on this very thing.  Remember the Salem Witch Trials?  They found that there was a fungus Claviceps purpurea on the grain they were eating.  The common name is Ergot.  This Ergot starts out like a spore and then takes over the fertilization of the plant itself.  It can lower the harvest rate of the crops.  The end product of this spore is like a tiny mushroom, making it difficult to notice. It is also difficult to eradicate in the growing area as it stays dormant until conditions are just right for it to reproduce.  Frigid cold winters and wet Springs are some of the conditions it likes to grow in. It was first reported in 1676.  Humans and animals and even insects can get the disease called Ergotism, or as the Monks who treated the disease, Saint Anthony’s Fire.  It was named that because it also caused severe burning sensations in the extremities of the body.  

Symptoms of Ergotism include:

·       Hallucinations, irrational behavior and also death.

·       Powerful contractions in the uterus, sick feeling in the stomach, convulsions and loss of consciousness. Physician’s in the Middle Ages use this as a way to induce labor, to cause a woman to abort her child and also to stop bleeding post-delivery.

·       Ergot alkaloids and caffeine were also used to treat migraine headaches. Ergot extract isn’t used anymore by the pharmaceutical industry.

Rye is Ergot’s favorite plant to infest but others include Wheat and Barley.  Not only are we finding out that many people have problems with gluten that is a product of wheat and corn, but that wheat and other cereal grains also can have this disease as well.  For more information about this go to:  “The Witches Curse” a program on PBS.ORG

Other foods that cause tantrums in children include:

• Salicylates in fruit, mint, tomato flavored foods and also in fruits and some vegetables
• Preservatives
• Artificial color
• MSG,
• synthetic antioxidants i.e. E320
• Dairy foods.  
• Sugar

Food Additives such as colors cause irritability, mood disorders. anxiety, depression, a hard time concentrating, problems learning, skin irritations, GERD, extended belly, diarrhea, wetting the bed, headaches and migraines.  Check with what you are eating if you have lots of flu and colds during the year as these can also be caused due to preservatives or coloring in your foods.

Familiarize yourself with the List of Food Additives and Colors.

Could it be in the drugs that we take or the vaccines?

There is lots of information on this on the Internet.  We have recently in the past decade realized that some chemicals that are put in our vaccine that are to prevent diseases are the cause of some conditions we didn’t think would happen.  The most prevalent debate is the insurgence of Autism from the vaccine in which we give to our children to prevent Chicken Pox.  It is Mercury that is the *preservative* that is present in the vaccine. 

Other drugs that cause aggressive tendencies in our children are:

Alcohol: Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is caused by mom’s that drank alcohol when they were pregnant.  Complications presented in the infant after birth is a problem with behavior, among other things which do not pertain to this article.  Heavy alcohol use lends itself to higher incidents of aggression in children and adults.

Anabolic Steroids, Anabolic steroids are drugs are used to build up muscle mass faster than you can with just exercising. It has been documented that some that take these steroids get into fights, they do aggressive crimes i.e. burglary and or armed robbery. They act in ways that they typically would not act had they not taken the drug.

Depressant/Downers such as Valium or Diazapam.

Cocaine

With all the hype about body image it is easy to see why some children get and use these drugs. 

With all the hype about body image it is easy to see why some children get and use these drugs. 

What are we teaching our children?  What are they seeing in us that we don’t see in us?  It is up to you to raise your child and from the minute it is born.  I hope that I have answered some of the questions you seek answers to.  Just what makes our children do violent things?  

When To Prepare Your Child For Their Future

Source: http://ktripp-techtalk4teachers.blogspot.com/2010/...

A Child's Future-When Should They Begin Thinking About Theirs

Coming from the stance of Human Growth and Development It would be great for them to start thinking about their future goals at around the age of 12. I know kids that knew what their careers were going to be in when they were in 1st grade. I also know that in 7th grade is when you get to choose your classes and discipline other than the CORE classes.

Scientifically there are other factors involved to help facilitate your child's planning for their future career. Those being Cognitive and Psychosocial. Genetics also plays a role in this but for this article I will be talking about Cognitive Development.

Cognitive

Cognition: of or pertaining to the mental processes of perception, memory, judgment, and reasoning, as contrasted with emotional and volitional processes

Cognitive development is the thought process. At the age of 12 years old a child is at the age of reasoning. They have the capabilities to know what is right from wrong and can think forward. They understand some consequences and can reason about their lives. At this point in time they communicate very well and can see their own future and the planning of it. Most know what it is that they want to do with their lives and plan accordingly. Some may need some help. It isn't wise to tell them what you want them to do but to allow them to use their own thought processes to help figure out a good game plan they can set up now.

They are at the stage known as Formal Operational Thought. They are able to build their own theories of things that are around them such as literature, morality, love, work and philosophy. It is at this stage they become better at thinking out things logically. According to Piaget's test results some do not get this logical thought process. Hmm, I can see this in some people. Their minds are like sponges. Keep filling them up with information. They will use it and thirst for more and more. During this time they can prepare themselves for future careers and build on it year to year past High School Graduation and beyond. It is good to get your child reading about all kinds of subjects and career possibilities. There are Career Tests that Middle/Junior High Schools students can take to see what careers they can go into based on the results of what he or she has provided on that test.

Moral Development is also taking place at the time in their young lives. Since they can reason and deduce what is right from what is wrong they can also come up with alternative solutions to problems they face. This is a very important step for future planning. By the age of 12-13 most kids reject conventional rules and have their own thoughts about how the world is supposed to work. It is in this time that parent should let them express themselves by allowing and promoting their abilities and mind to solving problems in their lives. To turn off their children at this stage would be detrimental to the mental health of the child. Parent's must take an active role when raising their children to become the best adult they can be.

Parent's must take an active role when raising their children to become the best adult they can be.

A Mind is a terrible thing to waste. There have been children/teens who have written books on things never imagined they could do by their adult peers and many other things.

Help your child prepare for his or her future. They will depend on it, just as you have and do.  A good article to read is Why We Did Not Pay For Our Children's College

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Raising Your Child To Become A Responsible Adult

Life is tough these days so they say. It was tougher back in the late 1800's - early 1900's. It will always be tough to live financially, especially if you do not teach your children very early on how to manage money and other things they will need when they become adults.

When you bring a child into the world from the very first moment you are preparing them to be a responsible adult. There are certain important life skills parents should be teaching children as they grow into maturity. No matter how much you think your child is too young to learn these things the more they will turn out to be lazy irresponsible come home to mommy and daddy adults.

Early Age Teaching

There are things that parents are responsible to teach their child at the moment of birth. Babies are not dumb or stupid. They already know how to get attention and to get their way---if the parent's choose to let them.

The parent is in charge. You are the adult teach your child the rules of life. What do you want to teach them versus what they want you to learn are 2 different things. When they start to walk is when you teach them control and what is right from what is wrong. You need to be teaching them consequences and you need to follow through on them. Just don't punish them once, but many times until they understand that they are not the ones in charge. A good show to watch and learn is Supernanny. Go ahead and click on the words because it will take you to the Official Site. She has a grasp on how to train your children and for them to know manners and how to treat others in the process.

Homemakers

Everyone needs these skills. If you teach them things such as these you will be better off for it. These children are going to grow up and become adults. It’s is what kind of adults are the parent's teaching them to be. If you constantly do for them they will never learn to do for themselves. This will bring them running home at the first sign that they cannot do the job. If you do for them when they come back, it is YOUR fault they are like this. They will never learn to be adults and will constantly rely on others to do for them. That will get them into lots of trouble. This is so sad to see adults still being children and the parent's not taking responsibility for how their children turn out once they leave the home the first time.

It is in the home where a child learns life skills and it is the parent's responsibility to teach them those skills. I am talking about doing laundry and washing dishes, cleaning their room, organizational skills, cooking and such. Get them to help you with those chores. They are able to do these things from the age of 4.

Financial Planning

This can be done as early as 7. We did it with our own children and that is one of the reasons they have not come back home to rely on Mommy and Daddy to take care of them.

Here is what we did:

At age 8 and 6 we gave them Monopoly money and we set up a game. It was a game to them but in reality it was to teach them money handling skills they would need when they become adults. These skills are so important for them to learn at an early age.

We gave them a salary and what they needed to pay each month. They had everything just like you would in real life (except for the play money). We were the Bank. They would take those play money and pay their bills at the bank. They had a family and bills to pay with that. We would throw in an unexpected event such as car break down, unexpected hospital stay or losing a job or something like that. They had to figure out how they were going to pay for it and how things were going to work out. We didn't tell them how to work it out but let them do it for themselves. We did this for a year and it worked out really well.

Both my daughters have had some minor money problems but neither came home to live with us. They both are very good with their finances and they both know how to plan for things that are unexpected. They are both very responsible adults.

This also goes in line with financial planning for their college tuition and a great article to read is:  Why I Didn't Pay For Our Children's College 

Words and Actions

Teach them that their words will be taken seriously. Teach them that when they tell you something they must stick to their word.  For instance...when my daughter was merely 17 she made a pact with me about when she thought would be the right time to come in at night. I allowed her to set her rules. She set them for a certain time. I think it was 11:00 on weekends and 10 on School nights. Not positive on this because she is now 30 something with her own toddlers running around now.  At any rate she agreed and told me and gave me her word that she would be home at the time *she* agreed on. She did not stick to that word. A few times I would see her in her boyfriend’s car drive up into the parking lot and her sit there with him for 1/2 hour. I was still up watching TV not spying on her. I let this go for a couple of times. The next time I went out to the car and knocked on the window and told her that she needed to be IN the HOUSE at the time she agreed on. I was told that I was overbearing and controlling and manipulative and the meanest mom in the world. I wasn't doing it for me you see. I was doing it for her to learn that her words are important and that others will depend on those words and her actions based on her words. It is a hard lesson to teach and it does seem radical for my approach, but if I didn't do this she would never have learned that words and character are built on those words and that is what employers look for and many others too. A person is only as good as their word.

Boundaries

Setting boundaries is so difficult but with the right training from childhood they can and do learn these things and apply them to their lives efficiently. Remember you are training your children to live responsible lives. A great site with step by step teaching skills is on LIVESTRONG

Teach Them NOW

Now that they are home in your house doing nothing and contributing to the problem instead of the solution, YOU need to teach them everything that you didn't when they were growing up. It's called Tough Love, but for the sanities in the house it HAS to be done. Give them chores to do, such as cleaning or laundry and cooking. Teach them about their finances. Teach them how to do a budget and checkbook accounting. Teach them to take care of themselves...their bodies and cleaning up after themselves. Help them find jobs or education. Do not take them there! You can provide information but they must do it themselves. Set YOUR boundaries and STICK to them. They are NOT a Child anymore, they are Adults. Treat them the way that you want to be treated. Respect is earned by both sides of the equation.

Another writer’s perspective:  I Blame The Parents,